Las Vegas Massage vs Statesboro Massage
Before moving to Statesboro, I had a great love for massage therapy, or so I thought. At the time we lived in Las Vegas and had for nearly 20 years. Performing massage was a joy. What could be better than going to work performing 3 to 4 hours of massage 4 days a week and going home? Working in resort spas on the strip can be a very lucrative business. After work there was no thought of the job. Time away from the strip was personal time usually spent with the family. It was actually possible to earn a decent living working part time, honestly. But then we moved to Georgian low country.
It doesn’t take long to notice that this is not a massage therapy Mecca and that working part time will not be as prosperous in The ‘Boro. If you look around, and know what you are looking for, you can find a good number of massage therapists, but there are no hotel casinos that feed a booming spa market. Unfortunately, a lot of people don’t realize how many of us there are here and they drive all the way to Savannah for massage. So, starting over after 20 years as a massage therapist has been an adventure filled with many lessons. The biggest one being the revelation that I didn’t really love what I had been doing for the last two decades.
That may sound strange, because massaging people in Las Vegas was great. It is just that here, in our small town, massage is so much more. It is more friendly, personable, and real. Working in that environment out west was very high volume, fast moving, and exciting. We had days when we would work on as many as 8 different people from all around the world. We worked on high rollers, celebrities, and people on a once-in-a-life-time vacation. Some people were there for conferences and would pop into the spa after a long day of meetings. Some were there to celebrate their 40th birthday. Each person had a completely different reason for getting a massage at the spa..
My favorite clients were people who were celebrating a personal event such as a birthday (usually 21, 30, or 50), a wedding, or even a family reunion. There is just something special about being a part of one of those milestones that warms the soul. Most of these people would only see us once in a lifetime and the massage, no matter how wonderful it was, would fade into the blurry memory of a whirlwind Las Vegas trip that was also filled with flashing lights, Broadway quality shows, shopping, and of course time on the casino floor or in the sportsbook for March Madness or the Super Bowl.
All of that was fine, mostly… There was always a hunger for more though. For me there has always been a drive to improve the quality of life for clients. That was the initial reason for getting into this line of work. Sure, people would come to the spa with pains that were able to be “resolved” in a single massage, as far as we could tell at least. We couldn’t really know though, because we never saw most of them again. We never actually knew if we “saved” the vacation, business trip, bachelorette weekend, or whatever the occasion was. There was still a need for more, and that is where Statesboro comes in.
My wife and I moved to Statesboro, Georgia with two of our children and our dog a little more than a year ago. It was clear from the beginning that starting up a small massage practice was going to be the plan. This was all part of our new adventure. There was a great deal of support from everywhere. All of the friends in Vegas were sure that this would be the perfect thing to fill what was I was missing in massage therapy and related bodywork (bodywork just refers to a broader group of styles of therapy that LMT’s are allowed to perform that don’t necessarily include massage) on the strip. Family also gave assurances that this was a great thing and everything in life had prepared us for this moment, and our supporters have only grown in number since getting to know this wonderful town.
How does anyone start a massage practice in a small town full of strangers? What was the preparation for this moment? How does anyone even feel at home in a new town? We had to figure that out first of all. I dug deep into the memory banks and recalled a time long ago when a friend asked, “Don, is there any place you don’t feel at home?” She asked this after noticing that everywhere we went, I did my best to treat people like, well… people who are appreciated. “Thank you” and “I hope you have a great day” were just a part of bringing a smile to the faces of people we would meet. Surely everyone likes to be greeted with a smile. After some reflection it was clear that this was consistent in how I was brought up in my sleepy Virginia town, it was the way I was trained in my first real job at McDonalds, and it didn’t change in the Forbes 5 star training I received at the Cosmopolitan of Las Vegas. It has just always been right. Just be your genuine self, friends advised. Everyone warms up when they see a smile. Here in The ‘Boro there is no shortage of smiling faces. Y’all made the transition into a small practice much easier. So as we smile together, you continually help get things going and have given guidance and support. Thanks for helping us feel at home here. It has been a great beginning.
Devine Hands Therapeutic Bodywork is a full time job. This is a lot different from just showing up 4 days a week for about 6 hours at a time. Almost every hour of every day has moments focused on this massage practice. It may be laundering the linens, responding to a text, or writing a blog post, but it is now a way of life not just a part-time job. There is also no anonymity here because everyone knows everyone else, and we see each other all the time. It is clear when a massage has been effective, because I hear about it while grabbing a bite at Sugar Magnolia’s, or running to the BiLo to pick up groceries. Here people are not usually on vacation, they schedule the massage around work, picking up the kids and the rest of everyday life. I see you everywhere; at First Fridays, the Farmer’s market, Chamber of Commerce events, PTO meetings, in the neighborhood, and everywhere else. When we see each other, we smile and I love hearing how you are doing, because we are not strangers. We are invested in each other’s lives. I think about you often, and even if you have not yet climbed onto the massage table, if there is some information or exercise that can help you, I will pass it along. I couldn’t do that in Las Vegas.
Massages were like sand castles that were quickly washed away by the hurricane force winds of the Las Vegas experience. That is no longer the case. I get to work with you as many times and as often as you would like. I get to truly be a part of your healing journey. I hate when you are in pain, but I love working with you to find resolutions to that pain.
Driving home from a busy day working on the strip, I used to play a game that consisted of trying to remember something about each person I had worked on that day. It is upsetting that I often would fail. That left an emptiness inside of me, and meant that there was no real connection. Now, as I drive home, I am thinking of you and your family, how you are doing, what can be done to help you more, and where I will see you next. I can reach out to you and share information that may help improve your health situation or ease your pain. I know your story and you know me. That was the part that was missing from massage for me. I love what I do now !
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Don Devine, LMT MT012315
What Is With the Blue, Gold, and Black Hand?
For many years I wondered what kind of logo I would have if ever I owned a company. I’d look around town and see lots of logos that I have recognized my whole life. Logos that don’t even need to include the company name anymore because everybody knows what you get when you see those symbols.
In 2000 when I was fresh out of massage school I started my first business, and it occurred to me that I needed to get all kinds of stuff like shirts, pens, business cards, etc. with a logo on them so that people would know me and my business just by seeing my symbol. My massage school had a great logo that incorporated a classic Greek column along with its name. I knew that I wanted a logo that had something timeless like that. But no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t find a symbol that could effectively represent my work. A few years ago, while looking at ancient cave drawings online, I found a petroglyph of a hand and there it was… almost. It was somewhat like the “Devine Hand” but it was the right hand, it didn’t have the colors, and the swirl in the palm went the wrong way, but I had found my inspiration. I just had to do a little work on it because all those characteristics exemplify who I am determined to be as a therapist. If you stick with me I will explain each element of the “Devine Hand.”
The obvious reason the logo is a hand is because we normally use our hands to apply the art of massage. As mentioned above, the petroglyph that was the source of my inspiration was the right hand. In traditional Chinese medicine the right half of the body is considered to have masculine energy, which has aggression among its characteristics, and aggression has no place in a massage environment. The left side of the body is the feminine side and has nurturing among its characteristics. That is how every aspect of a massage should be, so the left hand is a better representative of my work. If you look at the Yin/Yang symbol you will notice that it has a little dot of masculinity in the feminine side and the masculine side has a little dot of femininity in it. That is because nothing has purely masculine or feminine qualities, there must be a balance. For this reason I have this left hand tattooed on my right arm. I also find it important to wear this expression of balance since I am a male therapist. This left hand is a symbol of the nurturing side of my soul, the place where my work originates. The color of the hand itself is black like the hand in the cave picture that inspired the “Devine Hand.”
Swirls represent different things in different cultures. This swirl is the energy flow of my massage. It is always very important to make sure that energy is flowing in the right direction. If you consider the direction of massage strokes you will find that Swedish strokes tend to move toward the heart. The reason for this is to promote the flow of blood and lymph. This increases circulation which affects the removal of metabolic waste and the distribution of nutrition to the body. If you ever watch water going down the drain you will see that it moves in a counterclockwise direction (in the northern hemisphere) pulling the energy into the drain. The swirl of the “Devine Hand” has energy flowing out from it, therefore; it goes in a clockwise direction.
Peaceful nurturing energy flows from my hands, not to overpower, to invite healing. This way I can provide healing energy for you, without pulling energy from you. You are there to receive a healing treatment, not to have your energy sucked away. Also, this is the direction of the flow of time itself. We must move forward, not backward in time. It is okay to look back at where we have been, but it is imperative that we move forward in time toward the healthy people we are becoming.
The Color Blue
Blue is my favorite color, and it is also the color associated with water. Water is absolutely amazing! It can clean our bodies, conduct electricity and carve canyons. Most things dissolve in water and it is your body’s main ingredient. When I lived by the New River in southwest Virginia, one of my favorite things to do was sit on its banks and watch the water flow. The sound of its power washed all of my troubles away. I watched as the water contoured and reshaped the land that attempted to contain its flow. Sometimes, on cold winter days, the icy water would slow down as it would freeze along the banks, and the river appeared to be resting. When things warmed up in the spring and after a strong storm, the river would awaken with a power that loosened dirt and washed away debris, revitalizing the river valley and bringing new life. Early in my career, as I studied different modalities of bodywork, I learned to let my hands move like water. When you receive your session, I hope you notice that whether my hands are calm and slow moving, like the black waters of the Ogeechee River, or powerfully eroding discomfort from your body like the Colorado River patiently carving its way through Arizona, they have a flow that is influenced by refreshing blue water.
The Color Gold
Okay, maybe you call this yellow. To me this represents our life-giving sun. The sun is the greatest generator of energy in our solar system. When I was a massage student, I found myself drained of energy while practicing acupressure. My teacher guided me to ground myself and become a conduit instead of “giving” my energy away. In this spirit, I view the golden comforting light energy of the sun coming into the top of my head and moving out through my hands in order to provide you with the warm, life-sustaining, golden energy of the sun. That is why this color is within the clockwise swirl that sends energy to your body.
The “Devine Hand” isn’t just a picture of a hand that I can put on shirts, hats, gift certificates and other fun stuff. It is a representation of the work I do. My hands are influenced by the nurturing energy within my soul as they transfer the warm, comforting light of the sun pouring out of my hands like water to stimulate healing and the regeneration of your health.
Special Thanks To
Jennifer Allen who captured these concepts perfectly in the final design of this symbol, and
Angie Leaf who tattooed it on my right arm, where it remains as a constant reminder of my purpose as a facilitator of healing.
Thank you for allowing me to be a healing part of your life’s journey.
I know that we all wear many hats as we earn a living. For some reason I find it humorous to tell my kids what I have to do by saying things like, “Give me a minute, I need to get my linen guy to move the stuff from the washer to the dryer.” or, “my boss is making me…” I don’t know why, I just get a kick out of it.
This weekend at the breakfast table after making some statement about what I need to do for my “boss” my youngest says to me, “Daaaaaad! You ARE your boss.” I realized that I needed to explain something to him about being self-employed, so I broke things down a little bit for him. I explained that I actually work, not only for the people who climb onto my massage table, but also for those who MIGHT climb onto my table. “You see, I might be ‘self employed,’ but what that really means is that I have a great responsibility to do the right thing by the people whose care is entrusted to me,” I explained to him. I wear all the hats because I am a one-person operation just like many other small business owners. That means I get the praises when things go right and the blame if things do NOT go quite so right. I get to make all the decisions and if it doesn’t work out, I have to correct it. I don’t really think he was ready for that response, but I feel that he needs to realize that I don’t do massage for myself. I know there are others who can care for your health, but my responsibility is to YOU and my family. I know that every time you choose to come see me, you are helping me support them. Thank you for that.
And in that spirit…if y’all think I don’t post enough relevant content, just let me know and I will get after my social media guy. This is because I work for you as well as to help feed and support the ones who sit and eat at that breakfast table where this conversation happened.
I recently watched a stand-up comedy routine by Steve Soelberg that was completely focused on the meaning of “undress to your comfort level” when preparing to receive massage. The comedian explained that his “comfort level” is fully dressed because that is what society has taught him. He went into hilarious detail about the dilemma of interpreting the meaning of this and other massage terms. I laughed so hard that I cried. And then I thought, of course there is some confusion. Most therapists assume that this term is self-explanatory and a lot of people are embarrassed to ask what we mean. So, I will shed some light on what I mean when I say, “undress to your level of comfort.”
As a therapist who has been doing massage since 1999, this is something I say all the time yet rarely am I asked what I mean. The truth is that this is what we are taught to say in massage school, and when I taught massage I told my students the same. Now, in a three and a half hour class there was always time to explain what that means. We would go into great detail on things like how we greet people in a professional way, the importance of informed consent, and how to protect a person’s modesty through proper draping techniques (this is what I call sheet origami). In the class environment understanding is not assumed and there is plenty of time to get to a great variety of comfort levels and how to work within them.
When someone is about to climb on a massage table, however; there is an assumption that clients know what we mean when we talk of comfort levels. There is also an urgency to start the massage that often prevents a lot of questions from our clients. As a result the most important person in the room is sometimes left with this dilemma. “What IS my comfort level?” So, let’s take a look at some things to consider.
Your comfort level is what you are comfortable with. It sounds simple, but in many cases it is anything but simple. I remember my first massage and how I wrestled with this concern. I was at the Utah College of Massage Therapy student clinic on the weekend I enrolled in massage school. I knew that massage therapists were used to working on people who have nothing but a sheet on their bodies, but this was a student who would be working on me. Was this person ready for me to take all of my clothes off? I had read something somewhere in the school’s policies that made me think that she might not expect me to take everything off. So, I didn’t take off my underwear. In the end I found that I misunderstood the policy and I was sad because it clearly got in the way of the work she was doing. She did an amazing job anyway, but it would have been even better if I had removed all of my clothes. As a client I was too timid to ask a question that would have made my decision easier and the massage better. I have not repeated that mistake. For me though, this is easy and an easy conversation to have with another therapist.
Receiving a massage is an intimate experience. I know that may make it sound inappropriate, but I do not mean that in a sexual or inappropriate way. When you schedule a massage appointment you plan to go into a room that is often dimly lit, soft music is likely playing, and a person will be touching you for nearly an hour or hour and a half. Most people are not used to experiencing this kind of focused attention. When we are touched for these long periods of time we must completely trust that the person who is touching us has our best interest at heart. You are literally putting yourself in the hands of another person, that alone can be overwhelming. Now on top of that you may have no clothing on as you lay under a sheet.
When you are on the massage table you bring life experiences with you. This includes things like, your touch history (good and bad), your body image, and your culture of modesty. Each of these categories on its own can provide a lot of concerns. Some people have been through various abuses, or invasive medical procedures. In current society we are becoming more aware of the emotional aspects of our body image and what a real struggle that can be. Many of us feel as if we are constantly being judged for how we look. Modestly is sometimes determined by body image, but the root is often based in on a person’s theological or cultural background. All of these factors and many more affect comfort levels in individual ways. These differences are not always apparent from first impressions. For example, one week I had two women in their late 60’s from the same region of country, each with at least 3 grown children, and many other similar life experiences as far as I could tell. We could expect that they would have similar outlooks when it came to receiving massage, because each had received many massages before they came to me, but that was not the case. One held strongly to her modesty and the other said to me, “Honey please, I have 3 grown children. I am not modest.” In both cases, of course I provided the strict modesty protection I do with everyone. It is our duty as care providers to understand that each person has different concerns and needs, but we also need to set and follow consistent professional boundaries.
Is it ideal for the therapist if a client takes everything off? In many cases, yes. Clothes can inhibit the use of some techniques and limit access to areas of the body that may need attention in order to relieve pain or dysfunction. The hip is an area of the body that typically carries a lot of tension and often affects the lower back. If underwear is in the way it can be difficult to address the cause of these types of back pain. In a similar way, a bra can get in the way of shoulder work that could relieve neck pain and headaches. Also, we can do really nice long flowing strokes that are soothing and show the body how it is connected. Few things are as comforting as a long flowing stroke that starts at at your foot, goes all the way up your leg, around your hip, slowly up your back, over your shoulder and down your arm to your fingertips (now reread this sentence nice and slowly feeling it as you read).
Not fully undressing is okay though, because if a person is lying naked on my table and worried about being vulnerable, that will get in the way of the healing process. When you are not able to relax into the experience and release the pain or discomfort that is the reason for the massage, the entire session can be lost. Wasting your time would be more of a problem for me than working around your clothes. There are a number of different modalities of bodywork that are performed on people who are partially or fully dressed. John Barnes approach to Myofascial Release, Craniosacral Therapy, and Structural Integration are all modalities where the person being treated is partially dressed. Seated massage is performed in a variety of different locations, many of them being public and the person receiving the treatment is typically fully dressed. Now, if you do not want to receive these types of services that is okay too. Massages can, and should be adapted to suit your comfort and needs (now reread this sentence with a firm parental tone).
Your comfort level is where you can surrender to the session and be open to healing. When you receive a massage your comfort level is up to you and no one else. It may even vary over time. Your therapist should meet you in that space of comfort, honoring and working within your boundaries. There are so many different techniques in massage and related bodywork that your therapist should be able to provide the comfort and healing you are looking for, without you worrying if you are wearing the right amount of clothing. In the end I would advise you to talk to your therapist so that (s)he has the opportunity to provide your best session.
Every person deserves to have access to therapeutic touch. This means that providers must come to the table with compassion for everyone who walks into our practices. We must remember that it takes a great deal of trust to lie down on a table and surrender to the therapy we have the privilege to provide. We are honored that people come to us and trust us. The mere act of walking through the door and asking for help can take a great amount of courage and we always need to understand this. With this understanding we must leave all judgments at the door.
Don Devine LMT GA # MT012315